How to deal with dark thoughts


Don’t we all have them?

Imagine sitting alone, thinking of death, of hardships, of a scary phenomenon. Imagine all this happening to you or to your loved ones. Don’t you want to cry over your thoughts?

Hell knows where these thoughts come from. Is it imagination? Worse: is it intuition? Or is it a mental health issue?

Specialists (and I asked some of them) believe that professional help is needed in case of total disturbance of daily activities due to these thoughts. If not, then one can and must know their origin. It’s hard to tell most of the time whether these thoughts are imaginary or intuitive. They are intuitive if the thought becomes reality.

What is less known for common people is the normality of these dark thoughts. A “healthy” mind would have light and dark thoughts. All depends on one’s background and experiences and their interpretation of life.

One of the best ways to deal with dark thoughts is to try to know the cause of their emergence. Is it because of guilt or a feeling of failure? Is it because of deceptions in the past and fear of the future? We know the answers only if we choose to focus and understand. Once we know the cause, the solution is around the corner.

For heavier cases, speaking out is the path to remedy. Also activities such art, sports, yoga, meditation or any kind of activity that keeps the mind busy and helps boost self-confidence can help soothing the pain.

I noticed that dark thoughts emerge in my lonely boring inactive times. Martin Heidegger, the German philosopher, underlined the importance of boredom to reflect on the essence of life in his philosophical masterpiece: Being and time.

I have been trying to keep myself busy with what I like to do and to reflect on my dark thoughts in my alone times. I noticed that all of them have one origin: the fear of a future deception and loneliness. However, these thoughts have become much lighter and some images they brought disappeared.

How do you deal with your dark thoughts?



19 thoughts on “How to deal with dark thoughts”

  1. A good post.
    My head is most active, for good or bad, when I’m not long awake on Saturday and Sunday mornings. In the bad times, if I don’t get up and doing I can feel overwhelmed with misery and negativity. I have to get up.

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  2. Human beings will experience the full range of emotional experience given any period of time. As you said. Likewise thoughts. I don’t not see it as pathological to have dark thoughts, nor actually also as they might accompany dark experiences. I see it as normal and routinely human. I ponder if much of what we consider mental issues is a persons ‘inner’ over emphasis on what they ‘should’ be experiencing and thinking.

    I like the book “Dark nights of the soul” by Thomas Moore.

    Thanks M.

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  3. I believe facing your dark thoughts or memories head-on is the way to go. The key is — one and done! Face them, analyze them, accept them as “everybody has them” — then be done with them! Neurologists suggest that every time you revisit a past thought or memory, the path to where it lies is strengthened therefore easier to access by your mind. The key I believe is to halting this connection before it can get started down this well-traveled path.

    What works for me is, when I find myself starting down a path of unwanted thoughts or memories, I mentally (sometimes orally) SHOUT the words STOP IT! Then remind myself how I’ve long ago had closure on this and that I’m in control of my thoughts and this is a done issue so move on. I find with due diligence and repetition I’ve become quite good at stopping unwanted thoughts before they can be fully formed and so in time, loosening the pathway where they lie.

    Now this may not work for you, but the key here is doing something that does. Implement your own system for denying your bad thoughts. By reinforcing that you are in control, your mind will eventually get the message! After all, if your not in control of your mind — then who is? Enjoyed your post maylynno, happy thoughts!

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  4. A friend once told me that Francis of Assisi
    (whom Pope Francis took his name from)
    supposedly was often seen walking around alone with a dark facial expression.
    He was the lover and saint of animals who could communicate with them miraculously.

    When meditating a lot and being in a state of serenity I fully can relate to the burdens the ignorant masses pile onto one by vomiting out thoughtless remarks and attacks they even forgot a day later whilst this lingers in a sensitive soul for a long time. I guess Assisi sensed that animals were authentic in opposition to humans,
    so I do find so called ‘dark’ thoughts maybe at times a really justified and sane reaction to our pathological species.

    The only problem is when one does react under pressure undiplomatically and then regrets it or other kinds of negative dogmas imposed on us by education or society. Then a lack of self-love occurs.

    What does help me to deal with that is to listen to loving affirmations, like the ones from Louise Hay,
    or blissful books like ‘conversations with god’ .

    In the very long run I think our task is not to kill dark thoughts but to leave the entanglements between negative and positive thoughts in order to come to a state of neutrality in which those issues fade out and therewith become irrelevant.
    That’s why I rather not suppress them but whenever they come up contemplate until I found out what the root is of what was bothering me. As soon as I found that I gain a sense of internal evolution which is satisfying because it gave my discomfort a higher purpose.

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